Birthmother Loss and the Adopted Child

Loss is an issue adopted children have to tackle. In the article Dancing with Ghosts: Birthmother Loss and the Adopted Child Jean MacLeod writes, "Some adopted children will manage to cope with their adoption losses equably, but some will need a parent’s help to sort out the pain they feel from the ultimate rejection, and from the aching sense of missing an unknown mother." MacLeod talks about 8 emotional tools parents can utilize to help their child.
Here's a link to the article:

http://www.emkpress.com/dancingwithghosts.html

Have you used some of these techniques? Do you disagree with the author? How have you helped your child cope? Please feel free to respond in the comments section.

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